We often don't want success at all!
The price of success: How high is it? And in what currency is it paid? Thoughts on this and a new impulse for success from Volkmar Völzke.
Yes, every success has its price. Everyone knows that. This is about how you can not only become significantly more successful, but - and this is much more important - also more fulfilled. The first step is to become aware of this "price" for success. Because only then can I decide much better and more specifically what price I am prepared to pay.
What we often forget are the currencies in which the price is to be paid. What do I mean by that?
Well, real success, which goes hand in hand with fulfillment, will require or entail changes in various areas of our lives. So we pay with different "currencies", often at the same time. If we are not aware of this enough, we will not only fail, but be unhappy, even if we "succeed". Who hasn't experienced this? We have achieved something and don't feel good about it. Or we know what steps we need to take to achieve success, but still don't do anything. The reason is often the unknown currencies that we pay too little attention to.
So what are these currencies for success and fulfillment? Here are 5 examples:
- LifestyleChanges.
Every significant success requires changes in our lifestyle. We may have less time for previously important topics. Or we have to learn things that are difficult for us and question our habits. The problem is that we unconsciously always fight against changes to our lifestyle, even if they are anything but positive. - Less time for others.
Greater success often means that we have less time for certain people. This is an important currency. The classic example is the manager whose team has grown substantially and who is therefore no longer able to have detailed discussions with everyone at all times. - Selection of people around us.
If we want to reach a new level of success, we often need different people around us than before. Even certain friendships from the past are now more of a hindrance than a help. The old saying applies: you are the average of the five people you surround yourself with the most. - Enduring the envy of others.
It is essential: With your success comes envy and maybe even people who hate you. You have to be able to put up with that. Even I get "hater" comments on my posts from time to time. This currency is particularly relevant for you if you are strongly seeking the approval of others. - New problems.
More success inevitably leads to more problems. Many people believe that success will reduce their problems. This is almost never the case. So the currency is: pay with more problems that you will have. If you see problems in a positive light, this currency has a motivating effect.
One last tip: the more passionate you are about your goals, the more likely you are to be happy to pay the price.
To the author:
Volkmar Völzke is a success maximizer. Book author. Consultant. Coach. Speaker. www.volkmarvoelzke.ch